Can You Reach a Goal Too Quickly?

There is so much discussed out there about what happens when a goal is not met and how to not give up, but pull up your bootstraps and trudge on, start over, keep on keeping on, etc. But no one talks about hitting that target early and what to do next. Maybe it doesn't happen often,but surprise,it happened to me.

My current 90 day challenge is to lift my six year old grand daughter weighing 42 pounds OVER my head. At the time I was having a hard time carrying around the 10 month old grand son. So I started with 3 pound weights three times a week and faithfully taking my Body By Vi shakes. Soon I could increase reps and quickly advanced to 8 pound weights. And lugging around the 10 month old was getting easier.

So half way through the challenge, I decided to use the grandchildren as weights and lo and behold, I could lift 18 pounds(10 month old Micah) easily and hold him over my head repeatedly.,

then the 20 pound, Vivienne, not as cooperative, at first, began liking being suspended in the air.

When Lily (the ultimate goal) saw this she wanted to experience flying over Grandma, too. So I took the plunge and picked her up. With success under my belt, I felt that I could make the transition from holding her at my waist to boosting her over my head. (She's the first picture)

And I did. Not once, but several times. And after only 45 days of my challenge.

So of course I'm pumped, but now I'm perplexed. I reached my finish line way ahead of schedule. It's just never happened before. And it's kind of scary.

But really-it's just as important to set a new stretch goal as it is to reset one that wasn't achieved. Not pushing forward and being satisfied with the achievement is fine if that's the end of the road. But if it's not, step it up get some momentum going. If you wait and stay stagnant until the original end date, you will actually lose the advantage that was gained.

What should be done now? I'm out of grandchildren. Anyone want to lend me a 10 year old in 45 days?

Grace and Ease Day 17 Meditation Experiment

Today what popped for me during my Intentional Meditation was the phrase, grace and ease. Probably because yesterday it came up several times during the day. I start on a spiral of intensity as the day progresses which builds like a coil. It is actually my exuberance and passion for my message, but spills out into conversations with force and could be received as an overabundance of information, or in other words throwing up on someone. I know that is happening when I look at them in the eye and there is a glaze forming over their pupils. Or during a phone conversation, the other end of the line has been quiet for quite a long time and I have run out of air. So in my mind pops, grace and ease, and I think; If I was speaking that way right now, what would this conversation be like, and I start to breathe slowly and deeply. My focus shifts to what the person wants and needs not what I have to spring on them. I begin to listen and let them talk, with grace and ease.

It's Party Time! Day14 Meditation Experiment

What kind of organization begins a party at 10PM?  Well I found one.  It's a community that works like no other I have ever seen. And likewise plays with the same intensity.  Today I focus on the areas of my meditation that has to do with fun and relationships and notice that it shows up in several places.  I know that for me, taking time to celebrate the everyday small achievements is as important as receiving huge rewards and recognition.  I must remember to acknowledge every forward accomplishment. Love the person I am and enjoy the stretching to who I  am becoming.

It's a party everyday!

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Common Sense Day 13 Meditation Experiement

A good friend of mine recently reminded me that "Common Sense Isn't Common" and as I go through my day, it becomes more and more apparent to me it is true.  But it should also follow that by just thinking about something it should be unbelievable, that it will appear.  That's the stuff of magic. This process may not be magic, but if get the gist of what is going on with other members of this experiment, uncommon things may be happening that make no sense and the results that are being achieved are not common.  Stay tuned.  We are not halfway done.yet.

K.F.C. It's finger lickin' good. Day 12 Meditation Experiement

We're not talking about chicken here, but an easy way for me to remember what I am doing with the Meditation Experiment. I enjoy using acronyms in all areas of my life because it is a simple way to remember long lists of words.  Anyway it's about changing my beliefs by changing thoughts followed through with actions that are in congruentwith this flow. So today I remember KFC.
K-Know what you've got and where you are.  Blogging is helping with that after the mediation
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F- Figure out your Why.  This is an important step that I start my coaching clients with.  But as  time progresses, it is important to revisit, reevaluate or at least confirm the Why piece. It is part of my IM statement. And is going through tweaking.

C-Choose who you want to become. It is the person you want to be who does what must be done to have the things you want.

And through KFC, I will not be chicken, but Courageous! 

Who Wants More Today? Day 11 IM Experiment

Well if you are reading this post, The answer is obviously, ME.  We demand more in material things but it doesn't always happen.  At day 11 of the Meditation Experiment, it's about ten days more of regular commitment than I've done in a long time.  As a business owner, it is wonderful to be able to create my own schedule and add variety to my day.  And I do crave variety.  I am learning that to get more, there is a responsibility to create a regular time of quiet and peace in a full and hectic day. If nothing else it creates clarity, direction and the reminder to be the person who I know I am.

The Truth About Lies, Day 10 IM Experiment

People lie to me.  I'm not sure why.  I'm thinking that there are a variety of reasons.  But today between my meditations, I've come to realize a couple of things. I can connect with people fairly quickly.  I love creating new relationships and learning about what is important to people.  But it seems that there is a point at the end of conversation when, at times, I am being lied to.  It would be so easy it their nose grew like Pinocchio or there was a flashing light on their forehead blinking: Lie, Lie, Lie!  But here's the flash: Honesty is not easy.  It is simpler to make a promise of commitment with the intention of breaking it than to say "I'm not ready". "I'm not interested." "I don't want to."
 The original intention may not even be to lie, but circumstances, relationships, memory or time may get in the way.  Or they can't say no and don't want to hurt me. But, it's not about me. It's about them and their level of personal integrity.  Whatever the reason for them, I will not take it personally   In the meantime I'm going to look closer at everyone's nose when asking for a promise.....
"I am master of my emotions!" Og Mandino

UnHealthy and Wise Day 9 Meditation Experiment

The first line for my IM Experiement has to do with health so when I started to feel bad yesterday, the first thought in my mind was, "See, this stuff doesn't work, cause I got sick".. and I just had posted a couple days ago about how I never pick up viruses.  It would be great to end the story there because 24 hour hours later I am still under the weather.  However what I have learned while feeling miserable has been priceless for me.  Because it's not what happens to us, it's what we do with it.  As I was awake most of the night, my mind started wondering and what I did while I lay there was say the IM Statement in my head over and over and over.  Not only did it take my mind off how I was feeling, it gave me hope and belief that I am in charge.  Beginning my second week, I have more belief than when I was feeling "healthy".  This stuff may work after all.
?Today I Begin a new life" Og Mandino

Money Has Wings Day 8 Meditation Experiment

Easy Come, Easy Go.  Money has never been important to me.  My passion is people and how I can be the catalyst to improve someones live with whatever is their definition of success.  I've always had 'enough'.  On day 8 of the IM Experiment, the money part of the statement is glaring out at me.  What if I create generational wealth and it is done by money flying to me like migrating flocks of birds, not so much for me or even my immediate family, but to eliminate hunger in my surrounding community and something even bigger. 
Today "enough money" became a limiting belief.  And I've decided to fly.

If you see it, Is it real? Day 7 Meditation

I remembered today that the  last time I created an IM Statement was over a dozen years ago when I was a Mary Kay Director.  It was a novel idea to me so I created the "belief" that I drove a pink Cadillac.  I was driving a free car, but it wasn't  a Cadillac.  After a huge directors event, I went out into the parking lot, went up to my car and attempted to open the door to a beautiful brand new pink Cadillac!  My unconscious mind certainly manifested my vision, but because of circumstances, I left that company without getting that car.  Now it is a different company and a new car qualification..  That visualization appeared today during my meditation and fear set in.What if this meditation stuff is just a mind trick.  And even if I believe it, it won't become real. Then I realized that this time not only do I have an IM statement, it is loaded with feeling and I have included daily choices I make to have the outcome  really happen. This meditation stuff is powerful, it is creating past visions, internal turmoil, and new possibility.  So here is a picture of my new car.  I haven't walked up to it in a parking lot, but I am  actively making my calls to make it real.

How to Eat a Frog- Day 6 Meditation

It is said that if you do the hard stuff first, like eating a frog, everything else will be easy.  Well, how long does the 'hard' stuff last?  As I begin my day and want to start with my peaceful IM meditation, my mind wanders.  Twenty minutes is soooooo long first thing in the morning. I haven't yet  touched my chakras, or maybe my creativity can't be stymied at dawn.  Either I have to find a new time to meditate or I have to eat the frog differently. Yesterday I found that after a good solid 10 minutes of reading my IM statement, that I went on with my day and downloaded it onto my phone and reread it another 10 times between other things.  I'm not sure if this is right or wrong, but we'll see in  twenty four days.

I eat a FROG like an ELEPHANT!